Still looking for your 2021 groove?

I was originally going to write about creating your consciousness community and finding calm collaborators but after Sunday’s small group practice it seems many people still need help finding thier 2021 groove. I think self-care secret #18 will help you get there. Let’s dig in! ⤵️

While I’m not a fan of resolutions per say, it seems most people are not even setting a soft intention for their 2021. And I get it, when you’ve come off a year where goals and expectations change every 30 minutes, there’s little motivation to try again. Or maybe we can’t pick just one thing we want to be better this year? There are too many choices. BUT I suspect the real reason is something else entirely…

Are you still trying to survive? Perhaps you’re just trying to stay well until you can get the vaccine. Maybe you’re merely trying to keep up with work until the kids are out from underfoot and back into a classroom or dorm? 🙋 Or are you trying to survive isolation, because you don't have the regular dinner and movies with friends to help you cope with the more mundane parts of life?

Here's the thing - just because you are largely in survival mode, it doesn't mean that a VERY small part of you can't be flourishing. I invite you to consider how it might feel to dedicate 5 minutes a week to thriving.

I have two easy ways for you to do it and they both employ self-care secret #18: To achieve a self-care practice that effortlessly fits into your life, you must find something you love to do OR that creates results you love. And the key to finding this love is dabbling. Let me give you an example...

In massage school they said there are two kinds of practitioners: one who learns a little about lots of techniques or one that trains deeply in one specialty. For the first 10 years, I took courses in infant, pregnancy, Thai, shiatsu, Reiki, reflexology and so on. I thought I was a dabbler. That was until I experienced Craniosacral Therapy, my one true love. Then, I dabbled with different instructors until I found one that never got mystical but rather stayed focused on evidence-based principles. This deepened my connection to the work and practicing got even easier.

This made me wonder about what they said in massage school. Is it really about two different styles of practicing? Or is it really the difference between a practitioner who found their fit, their LOVE, versus one who is still dabbling? And likewise with self-care.

If you don’t have a self-care routine that you love so much you can’t help but practice 5 minutes a week - even when you're in survival mode, perhaps you haven’t dabbled enough?

Because you’ve dabbled and found the perfect fit before, right? Maybe it was for a spouse, authentic friends, a job, spirituality or simply your wardrobe style.

My point is you must keep dabbling until you’ve found your self-care love so a part of you can always be thriving, even when times are tough.

If you aren’t sure how to even start with 5 minutes of thriving, I have two suggestions for you:

1. Let researching self-care be your 5 minutes of thriving. Google what interests you or better yet asking around. What do other’s love so much that it’s easy to do no matter what? Post it on social media to source the crowd. Or text someone you feel particularly aligned with and find out what works for them.

   BECAUSE other people have found it for themselves!

   In class this week, I had one student say doing small group sessions felt like they were coming back home. Another student is practicing so regularly that for the 3rd class in a row she just didn’t have a struggle that needed addressing.

2. If you just need to start doing something now, I’ve got you covered with this month’s 5 minute Biodynamic reset. You can get it by joining the mailing list here or finding it in the Feel Better On Every Level Facebook group (along with a bunch of other resources). If you’re already on the mailing list, check your inbox because I provide the current reset in every weekly email.

Don't write yourself off as a self-care failure. Please know that you just might not have dabbled enough yet. Happy dabbling!

Aimee